Wow...it's happening! Our first blog post. We are so thankful you are here and appreciate the opportunity to open our hearts to all of you. So first things first!
HELLO
Hi there! I’m M and I am so lucky to be married to my wonderful husband J. We got married in 2015 and live in San Diego, CA with our 2 spunky fur babies. We love craft beer, playing games (there is a constant Uno battle happening in our house), and cooking new recipes together (our current obsession is our new cookbook from The Pioneer Woman).
After being married for a year, we started our journey of trying to grow our family. What we didn't know was we would spend the next year....every single month....getting negative pregnancy tests. J was always telling me to not pee on a stick (a.k.a. take a home pregnancy test) and just wait for Aunt Flo to show up, but for some reason (and lots of money later) I would test every single time. And I swear, the day or day after I would test is when my period would start if just to be a slap in my face.
So finally, after a year of trying to conceive, we started down the road of testing to see if we could figure out why we hadn't conceived yet. Our doctor “requires” trying for a year before they will meet to discuss testing and providing aid (I am sure there will be a future blog post on this because I have lots of feelings about this "rule"). We were poked a lot (and I'm not just talking about getting blood drawn) and, at the same time, still getting negative pregnancy tests every month. We finally got the diagnosis: Unexplained Infertility.
Check out the About page to learn more about us and our first 2 rounds of fertility treatments.
WHAT IS BABY DUST?
You know how you tell an actor to "break a leg" before a performance? Think of wishing someone on their fertility journey "baby dust" as the same thing. Baby dust is a term meaning good luck conceiving a baby and a hope that it will happen soon. It's basically our version of "good luck" because we all want as much sticky baby dust as we can get!
THANK YOU
This has not been an easy journey for us to navigate, but knowing we are not alone does provide comfort. We created Baby Dust Truths as a space for sharing, inspiring, educating and venting. SHARING: Follow along on our journey to growing our family. We will try to keep everyone updated, but we can't promise these updates will come in real time. There is a lot of processing that happens with different steps are taken or things happen, but we will do our best so you can be a part of the roller coaster with us as much as possible.
INSPIRING: Infertility warriors are some of the strongest people we know, but we all need the extra support and love as we fight this battle. Whether its an inspirational quote or a funny meme, these reminders of what we are fighting for and how strong we are for going through this journey is so important.
EDUCATING: We have gone through multiple IUIs, one round of IVF and one frozen embryo transfer. We are by no means experts (and none of this is ever going to be medical advice. For that, talk with your doctor!). We feel though we've learned a few things that worked, didn't worked or at least helped us in some way and we want to share that with fellow infertility warriors. More importantly though, we want to use Baby Dust Truths as a way to educate the communities of family and friends surrounding infertility warriors.
VENTING: Infertility sucks...there is no other way to say it. So yes, we are going to vent and sometimes you may realize you are guilty of what we are venting about. It's not to make you feel bad we promise! We want to share these moments and emotions with you to help you understand what it's like and how you can help those struggling with infertility and pregnancy loss.
As a side thank you, we are new to the blogging world so thanks for sticking it out with us as we learn the ropes ;)
SORRY NOT SORRY
Part of the Baby Dust Truths is the chance to educate and share our hearts with those going through their infertility journey and the communities around them. Sometimes what we have to say isn't going to be easy to read but it's important that we share our truths.
There are so many things that we have experienced, learned or struggled with during this journey. While we want to create a support system through our posts for fellow warriors, we really hope these posts reach the communities around these warriors too. Those of us going through our own infertility journey need our communities support more than ever, but there is no handbook on how to be there for a family member or friend who is struggling with infertility or pregnancy loss. And let's be real....it's not easy to support someone who is struggling and you may be doing or saying all the wrong things without even realizing it. Heck, we probably would have done the same things if one of our friends was struggling before we started our own journey. Until you have walked this path, you don't understand it. So we want to be as open and honest about all things that come with infertility, trying to conceive, pregnancy loss, etc. Please know that we don't hold anything against you if you happened to do or say some of the things we talk about - this is a learning opportunity for all of us!
So here we go…...welcome to the Baby Dust Truths.
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